Recently
in an adult Sunday school class, we were discussing how people sometimes drift
away from the church, and two different people pointed out that introverts
often feel unneeded in their congregations, like they don’t have anything to
offer. It brought to mind this passage
from Paul to the Romans:
For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned. For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them (Romans 12:3-6a).
In
other words, EVERYONE has a part to play, and introverts have many great
strengths they can use for God’s glory in building his kingdom!
Let’s
begin with a few definitions. An
introvert is someone who draws their energy internally (unlike an extrovert who
is energized by being around people). Conversely, dealing with other people is
draining to an introvert. But God didn’t create people to fit neatly into one
of two categories, so there is a lot of variation even within this group. For
instance, Helene and I are both introverts.
I would rather greet strangers at church than be asked to teach a group
of ladies. Helene dreads small talk but
is an excellent public speaker to groups both small and large. There is a place for both of us to serve,
just as there is for all of God’s children, regardless of their “vertedness”
(Yes, I made that word up). Today on
behalf of all introverts, I’d like to share ways that we can use our strengths
in the church.
• Card
or letter ministry: Many churches get
the names and addresses of visitors. See
if you can get that list and send a letter letting them know you appreciate
their visit. You can also send cards to the sick or new Christians to let them
know you are praying for them.
• Be
a prayer warrior: Prayer is a powerful
tool, definitely more than “the least you can do,” and it is something you can
do all alone. When you have prayed for
someone, send them a quick text to let them know. It will brighten their day to know you have
thought about them to the Father.
• Evangelism:
Spreading the gospel is a command for all people, both introverted and extroverted,
but it doesn’t have to be flashy. For me, building a friendship and beginning a
Bible study with a lost soul takes a lot less people energy than door knocking
or teaching a group of women. Introverts are especially good at building deep
friendships, so personal evangelism that begins with a friendship can be right
up our alley.
• Food
ministry: Providing a meal for the sick, elderly, or grieving is something
we’ve talked a lot about here on Maidservants of Christ. If your congregation has a system set up for
taking food to folks, then find out how you can join in. If not, then be quietly aware of people in
your congregation who may need food, and provide it for them.
• Church
up-keep: This is one of those jobs that no one notices – unless it doesn’t get
done! Even if your congregation has a
cleaning service, it is helpful to have someone straighten the auditorium after
services and take out the trash (especially from the nursery!). There is
usually a need for helpers to clean up after potlucks as well. Groundskeeping outdoors is another behind the
scenes kind of job that everyone appreciates! Every church also needs people to
change out flowers, make bulletin boards, prepare the doors for classrooms and
other kinds of decorating. Because
introverts are very good at sustained effort at quiet tasks, they are excellent
at jobs like these.
• Teach
a class: Some of the best teachers I know are introverts. I prefer to teach
children because they zap my energy much less than adults do, but introverts
make excellent teachers for any age.
• Help
a teacher: If your church has enough teachers (and if they do, I’d like to know
how they manage it!), you can always help a teacher. Come into the classroom as “crowd control,”
or even assist before class by making copies or running the laminator. For those congregations which do not buy
curriculum, planning lessons for teachers is also a great job for an introvert.
• Planning
events: Introverts are often naturals at planning. Large events like VBS, gospel meetings, and
potlucks don’t run well without someone behind the scenes doing all the
planning and organizing.
• Writing:
Many churches have bulletins, blogs, or social media outlets that could use a
good writer, and introverts are often excellent writers.
I’d
like to close with a few more thoughts. I don’t want you to get the impression
that we should never be put in a situation that stretches us or is
uncomfortable. God will always equip us.
For
you extroverts out there, please keep this in mind: just because you don’t see
the service that your brothers and sisters in Christ are providing, that
doesn’t mean they aren’t working hard for the Lord. They may be doing so in a behind the scenes
kind of way. We should all be paying
attention to our own work for the Lord, not worrying about what someone else is
doing.
Melissa
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Thank you for this--on behalf of introverts in the body of Christ everywhere! I found you after Helene found my piece on encouraging introverted children via the blog link-party circuit. I so appreciate what you've written here and love this wrap-up: "I don’t want you to get the impression that we should never be put in a situation that stretches us or is uncomfortable. God will always equip us." Absolutely! If God calls us TO it, He equips us FOR it! Blessings and thanks!
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DeleteAwesome post, Melissa! There are so many that need to read the powerful truth within the words you've shared here! Blessed to visit with you guys! Peace and many blessings to both you and Helene! :-)
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DeleteLove this! As an introvert, I never imagined I could be involved in ministry, yet as I've grown to embrace my strengths and acknowledge my growth areas, I've found all kinds of ways to contribute - writing (and even speaking).
ReplyDeleteI love this! Maybe because I'm an introvert and this post sort of describes me. I like to play behind the scene rather than being on the front roll. My way of getting comfortable around people and witnessing is developing friendship first, this often make people to think I'm a flirt or sort. But thats who I am, I can't help it. I write, blog, tracts, thats my way of contributing the church I worship with.
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Thank you for this post, sometimes is is harder to fit inn when you are introverted, but there are so many ways that an introvert can contribute their love, heart and giftings at church.
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